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The dating market in Togo

The new rule of the capitalistic dating market is "take options".

This rule says ‘save people you wish to date and be patient until they ran out of options or reach some dead ends and start going back through their past pretenders address book.’

In Togo, nowadays people delay engagement or relationships, preferring flix and chill, casuals, trying partners from all races and tribes, and would only start looking for a partner when tired of adventure, ran out options, or when a pregnancy would occur.

‘Save me until I’d ran out of option’ is the new motto. Patience is the new best courtisan skill.

‘I have not fucked around enough to settle. Look how many people I could afford to bed, why would I choose any now’.

As sex became abundant and trust evaporated, people enter relationships very cynically, almost resentful of the social obligation of being in couple which is depriving them of the freedom of living as they wish.

People would start a couple out of despair or when out of option and would resent their partner and even more their kids for the privation they brought into their life.

Sure, I have friends and encounters who are very much in genuine relationships. They are just a minority.

Deliberate and intentional couples have disappeared leaving place to transactional couples.

In summary, the norm in the now capitalistic dating market is option, consumerism and innovation.

Probably that’s what evolution demands now!

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